... I've been meaning to ask, where does it hurt?

    Hi ,
    this week in I've Been Meaning to Ask. We ask, where does it hurt?

    Our goal of this worship series is to cultivate a holy sense of curiosity and connection by encouraging the skills of holy listening, of listening with the purpose of discovery and one that is reciprocated. By doing this we hope that the relationship between members of the congregation will be encouraged.

    We believe everyone carries hurt but also that everyone has the capacity to acknowledge the pain of others. We believe God draws close to us in every moment of suffering. We commit to vulnerability and compassion. In this series we are reminded that it is not our job to ‘fix’ the pain of others but to listen, acknowledge and walk alongside others in their pain.

    We want to acknowledge that what we talk about, particularly relating to the readings where we hear two women's’ experiences of infertility and isolation, are sources of hurt, and that pain may be triggering. Please know that we care for you and if you wish to make time to talk with Dion, Jay or Angela some time this week or receive prayer from our prayer team during the service, then you are welcome to do so. With that in mind, this week, we remember that everyone is beloved, shaped from the dust of the earth and the breath of God. Everyone has a story to tell. Our stories are messy and beautiful, painful and hopeful—being written and rewritten over time. This week we commit to disrupting our assumptions and staying curious.

    Journeying with you, Dion.

      ... I've been meaning to ask

      So often we sit side by side and week after week in the pews without truly getting to know one another.

      This is a series where we encourage curiosity, courage, & connection. Our society is desperately in need of spaces for connection and conversation. We know that change, growth, and healing can only come through curiosity, empathy, and courage. Over the next four weeks, we hope to move beyond small talk to practice curiosity, listening, and connection.

      We explore:
      • where are you from?
      • where does it hurt?
      • what do you need?
      • where do we go from here?

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        Anglican Missions Get one- Give One Campaign.

        Get-one. Give-one is an Anglican Church wide (and soon to be New Zealand wide) campaign! Already over $6500 has been raised!
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        For fifty years, CBA has been sharing the heart of the Christian faith on mainstream broadcast media. We engage very large audiences with respectful, creative and positive programming. The overwhelming majority or our listeners (80%+) are those you won’t see at church, and we’ve designed our programmes with them in mind. Please join us for afternoon tea with CBA’s CEO, Phil Guyan. Phil and the CBA team, including Petra Bagust and Rev Frank Ritchie, will be giving a short presentation about what makes CBA so effective at reaching out to every day New Zealanders and speaking Christ into people’s homes. We would love to meet you. Bring a friend or come along with your prayer or Bible study group.

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        Mainly Music

        Fridays 9:30am start at St Marys

        Mainly Music runs during the school term if we are level 1. If you know of a local family with pre-schoolers please recommend this group to them. This group is open to all families with pre-schoolers. $4 donation per family asked.

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        Mainly Music is a great mission, it runs school term only on Fridays at 9.30am. It provides an educational quality time for careers and pre-schoolers. We need volunteers to move all the chairs to the side of the church so we have an activity space for the families. If you are able to help move chairs Thursday, to set up, or on Friday at about 10:30am, after the session, please call Meg Norton 473 8444.

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        Community Shop

        Welcome to our new Community Shop. The Community Shop has relocated further down Inverness Rd to a larger brighter building that will allow us to hold more stock on premises. Although the physical address of the shop is 38 Clyde Rd the entrance-way is on Inverness Rd just up from the ASB bank, (next to the Japanese restaurant. New signage will be up shortly.

        A huge thank-you to everyone for all your hard work and long hours over the last weekend moving us into the new shop.

        The Community shop took just over $9,000 in May which is another excellent month. Expense's need to be taken off this total. 6th June marks the second anniversary of our Community shop. Over the last year, (1 June 2020 to 31st May 2021) our Community shop has taken just over $97,000 in revenue. Thank you to everyone who continues to support this mission.
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        The Thankfulness Project. Thankfulness week

        The Thankfulness Project is a New Zealand initiative with the goal of lifting up NZer's mental health and increase an awareness of Mental healthiness. Like Physical health, we all have mental health and that we can do things to build this and make it stronger in our lives. Thankfulness is great for your Mental Healthiness. We can all to easily find our self focused on what we lack, what's going wrong and what we don't have, sometimes we all need a prompt to recall all our blessings and things we have to be grateful for. These resources promote the habit of daily thankfulness. Check out The Thankfulness Project online resources via the link below. Thankfulness and gratitude practiced daily creates better mental health.

        Our Daily Bread.

        New copies of 'Our Daily Bread' are now available. Copies will be sent to the Community Shop and available in church.

        Cyber safety.

        Auckland Dioceses have made us aware of a scams currently targeting churches.
        People are emailed, apparently by the clergy, and asked for money to support a person in need. If you receive any email asking you for money, gift-cards or anything similar, please ignore it and delete it. It is recommended you report it to the Police and/or Netsafe. You will never be asked for money or gift cards via email. Please only give money to St Mary by the Sea, via online banking (details below) or EFTPOS at St Mary by the Sea.

        This is a timely reminder to all parishioners to be cautious of any email asking for money or gift cards. Auckland Diocese has a policy that clergy in the Anglican Church do not ask for funds directly in this way.


        Happy Birthday to Ailsa McCarlie for the 25th June. Best wishes and many happy returns to you.
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        Church donations by Cheque.

        The BNZ, (the churches bank), will stop processing cheques from the 30th June 2021. After that date we will no longer be able to present cheques to the bank for clearing. Donations can be made via direct bank transfer, automatic regular payment or EFTPOS machine in church. If anyone would like information on any of these methods and how they work with your giving number please do not hesitate to ask. All of these options can be recorded against your giving number.

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        In line with our policy on saving financial and environmental resources, we would like to move to sending tax receipts were possible by email. If you are happy to receive future tax receipts by email please email the church office ( from the address you wish your receipt to be sent to with TAX RECEIPT as the subject line. This will be considered your authority to send subsequent years tax receipts to this address.

        A huge thank you for all the donations made over the course of the year. Without such donations we would not be able to continue the work of the church, providing opportunities for worship and service, along with the hosting of our much-valued community programmes.

        Community Garden

        Are you interested in being part of the St Mary by the Sea community garden? For more information, see the information on the Welcome Desk, or talk to Clayton Christie at the 8am service, or Nannette Randall at the 10am service. There is an expression of interest form here, and a brochure here. and on our website here:

        Prayer for Persecuted Believers

        I am a local Christian and run a small prayer group using information from Barnabas Fund, Voice of the Martyrs, Open Doors and other organisations. We pray for our Christian brothers and sisters in nations where it is illegal for them to practice their faith, or even own a Bible, and also thank God for answered prayer.
        If you have a particular nation or people group on your heart please feel free to come and share, so we can join together in prayer.

        At present, we meet every second Monday of the month at Northcross Church, and start with refreshments at 7pm before we pray.

        You will be made very welcome, and for more information please contact Margaret Marriott at or 021 0242 2641

        Sunday 20th June

        Theme: Where does it Hurt?


        1 Samuel 1:1-18
        Mark 5:21-43


        Creator God, you spoke the word and the wind and waves responded. Speak your word to the storms of doubt and fear that assail our troubled world. Set within us a love for your creation and for all your people. May our actions honour and care for this fragile world. Through Jesus Christ our Liberator, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit,one God, now and for ever. Amen

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        Sunday - 10am - intergenerational worship with communion

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